You’ve been showing up. Posting consistently. Following the frameworks, buying the hook templates, and hiring the coaches. And yet, something is off. Somewhere along the way, your brand voice got lost.
Your content looks fine on paper. But it doesn’t feel like you. And deep down, you can sense the disconnect even if you can’t name it yet.
That disconnect has a name: identity erosion. And in Episode 3 of CEO Declassified, I’m walking you through exactly what it is, why it happens to coaches and personal brands who are actually trying hard, and the three moves that brought my voice back after I nearly lost it completely.
The Real Reason Your Content Isn’t Converting
It’s not the algorithm. Well, sometimes it is. Anyone who’s tried posting on Facebook lately knows the reach is just not what it was. I’ve heard the same thing from clients, peers, and friends. But that’s a different conversation.
What I’m talking about here is something more specific: the kind of flat, forgettable content that happens when you know your audience, you’re posting regularly, and you still feel like you’re shouting into a void.
That’s not an algorithm problem. That’s a “you” problem, in the best, most fixable sense.
“Your strategy is only as strong as the identity it’s built on.”
When I look back at a stretch of years where I was grinding – posting on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, running a social media agency, working with clients. I was doing all the right things. But I’d wake up every morning and think: who am I even creating content for? Like, what am I doing this for?
I was clear on my niche. I had frameworks. I had coaches. What I didn’t have anymore was myself.
How “Best Practices” Can Steal Your Identity
Here’s what no one tells you when you start investing in coaching and education: the more you consume, the easier it is to start sounding like everyone you’re learning from.
You take a hook template here. A content framework there. Someone’s DM strategy. Someone else’s positioning language. And slowly, without realizing it, you Frankenstein your brand together from pieces of other people’s identities.
The result? Content that’s technically correct but spiritually empty. Functional, but forgettable.
“If your posts sound like your coach’s emails, you’ve outsourced your identity.”
I’ve done this. Literally. There was a point where I could trace specific phrases in my content back to specific mentors. Not because I plagiarized, but because I’d absorbed their style so thoroughly that it became my default setting.
The tell is when you look at your last 15 posts and you genuinely can’t tell which parts are yours.
Your Brand Voice Is Not a “Tone”, It’s Your True Identity
Something people used to tell me, before I started trying so hard to be strategic, was that when they read my Facebook posts they could hear my accent. My actual Russian accent, in written text. They said they could hear me.
I wrote imperfectly. My grammar was not flawless. (The grammar police were probably after me.) But I wrote the way I spoke, and that was one of the most powerful things I ever did for my brand, even before I knew it was a “strategy.”
“Write the way you speak. Imperfectly. With grammar mistakes. Let people get to know the real you, instead of a polished-up version by a robot.”
Because here’s what happens when you try to clean it all up and make it sound professional: you lose the texture. You lose the specificity. You lose the little things that make people feel like they know you.
I’ve been reading a lot of fiction lately – romantic fantasy, smut, all of it. And I started noticing how certain authors have this rich, unusual vocabulary that you could never confuse with AI. You encounter a word you’ve never seen before, and you think: this person actually wrote this. There’s a real human in here.
That’s what I want for your content. Words and cadences so distinctly yours that no one asks if ChatGPT wrote it.
Using AI Without Losing Yourself
I co-create with ChatGPT regularly. I’m not against it. But there’s a massive difference between using AI as a sparring partner and using it as a ghostwriter.
Recently, I was reviewing a client’s email copy during a strategy session. Good bones – some decent copy in there. But I could tell immediately. The grammar was too perfect. The voice was too smooth. Everything landed slightly off. And when I ran the same brief through my own ChatGPT – the one I’ve trained on my own frameworks and vocabulary, the difference was night and day.
The lesson: if you haven’t trained your AI on how you actually speak, you’re just getting generic. And generic is invisible.
The rule: Use AI to draft, and then rewrite in your own style. Let it be the first pass, never the final word.
Hooks Without Hype
I’m not anti-hooks. Hooks matter, especially in video content. What I am against is copy-pasting hook templates verbatim and calling it your content strategy.
You know what I never do? Make massive claims I can’t back up. Promise things I’m not certain of. Overpromise in the opener just to get the click.
My rule is: edgy truth beats big claim every time. If I wouldn’t say it out loud to a real person, I don’t publish it. That’s it. That’s the whole filter.
“Imperfect is memorable. Mimicry is invisible.”
When you publish content that has a real opinion, one that might actually make some people uncomfortable, the right people lean in hard. The wrong people self-select out. That’s not a bug. That’s exactly how personal branding is supposed to work.
The 3-Move Recovery Plan for Your Brand Voice
Move 1: Audit for Mimicry
Pull up your last 15 posts. Read through them like a stranger would. Mark anything that doesn’t sound like you – anything that sounds like a coach you’ve worked with, a template you bought, or a framework you absorbed.
Then rewrite three of them in your actual voice. Not polished. Not optimized. Just yours.
Move 2: Reconnect With Your Origin Story and Positioning
Go back through your phone gallery. Scroll through your Facebook memories. Look at old posts from years ago. You’ll find things you’ve completely forgotten – stages you spoke on, clients you helped, pivotal moments that shaped who you are.
We chronically underestimate what we’ve done. We forget who we are when we’re too close to the day-to-day. Pull out at least five story seeds – moments, wins, turning points, even villain moments (the ones where you were kind of in the wrong and it was justified) – that only you could tell.
I shared a story recently about nearly cursing out my teacher at 17 over a Hebrew test grade because my best friend scored higher. My coach called it the most “me” story she’d ever heard. The audience loved it. That’s the kind of thing ChatGPT will never write for you.
Move 3: Publish One Pattern-Breaker Per Week
Every week, commit to one post that only you could have written. A bold belief. A behind-the-scenes confession. A take that makes you slightly nervous to hit publish.
Not nervous because it’s wrong; nervous because it’s real. That’s the difference.
AI content is going to flood every platform. By 2026, the predictions say the vast majority of content online will be AI-generated. The only thing that cuts through is the irreducibly human – your stories, your specific experiences, and your actual brand voice.
A Note on Coaches, Frameworks, and Knowing Your Lane
Working with coaches and learning from mentors is not the problem. The problem is trying to run five coaches’ playbooks simultaneously.
Right now, I work with one, maybe two people at a time. I’ve unsubscribed from most of the email lists I used to be on. Not because the content is bad — but because I know that too much input pulls me in too many directions, and even with 10 years of experience, that noise costs me something.
Choose your lane. For me, it’s content creation, identity, and visibility. Everything else I can study, but I keep it in a sandbox, not in my live brand.
And if you’re early in your business without much budget? Go to the Facebook Ad Library. Find accounts in your space that have been running the same ads for three, four, or six months. Study what’s working at the surface level. Reverse-engineer the structure. Then make it yours.
The Verdict
Most content problems are identity problems.
Strategy can amplify a brand, but only if the brand has a pulse. If you’ve been consistent without connecting, the leak isn’t in your calendar or your Canva templates. It’s in the gap between who you are and who your content sounds like.
Close that gap. Audit the mimicry. Go back to your stories. Publish something this week that only you could write.
That’s how your content becomes unmistakably yours again.
Your Next Move
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Key Takeaways
- Strategy without identity produces flat content and eventual burnout.
- Your natural cadence – accent, imperfect grammar, specific vocabulary – is the brand.
- Study other people’s approaches. Don’t ship their voice.
- Use AI as a sparring partner, not a ghostwriter, and train it on your actual voice.
- Hooks help. Hype hurts. Edgy truth always beats a big unsubstantiated claim.
- Publish one “only I could write this” post every single week.
